At some point in life, most of us feel like we’re stuck in one place, unable to move forward. It might feel like we’re trapped in a relationship, a job, or even in life itself. In these moments, despair, helplessness, and anxiety about the future often overwhelm us.
For some, this feeling of stagnation can be so intense that thoughts of ending it all seem like an option. Watching others appear to have their lives perfectly together can deepen this sense of regret and helplessness. But the truth is, we all carry our own life experiences, and these shape how we feel and react in different situations. So, if we feel stuck, the first thing we need to do is ask ourselves the following:
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Feeling Stuck is Temporary, Not Eternal
When we feel trapped, our instinct is to blame others or external circumstances. However, the best approach is to look inward and examine our feelings and thoughts. While we may not always be able to change external circumstances, we can certainly change how we perceive them. The exciting thing is that when we change our perspective on something, the situation itself changes automatically.
“Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.” – Mooji
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The Feeling of Stagnation Is a Message for Change
Stagnation may be signaling the need for a shift in mindset, perspective, or habits. The way you’ve been managing yourself up until now may no longer work. Find the hidden reason behind the feeling of being stuck and start making deliberate changes in specific areas of your life. Life tends to shrink until we get the message to expand and move forward!
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The Ugly Force of Past Baggage
Everyone has had unpleasant past experiences that linger in the background. Without realizing it, we often carry the weight of these negative experiences. While we can’t always erase them, the good news is that we can stop letting them control our thoughts. By consciously monitoring our thoughts and reprogramming our minds, we can shift focus to the present moment and make the most of it. When negative memories start to creep in, remind yourself that they serve no purpose in your current situation. Instead, focus on what you can do right now.
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The Illusion of Excuses
If you truly want to accomplish something, you’ll find a way to make it happen. If not, you’ll hide behind excuses. While admitting this might be difficult, it’s the truth. Instead of focusing on why something is impossible, try focusing on why it is important to do it.
“The only person standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
You are the only person who can stop yourself. So, let’s stop hiding behind excuses and start working towards change. Procrastination, fear of failure, and anxiety hold us back, and we end up trapped in the frustrating cycle of stagnation. Instead of waiting for a magical solution, let’s gradually change our circumstances and shift our mindset.
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Freedom Through Authenticity
By allowing ourselves to live true to our personality, we also give others the freedom to do the same. By embracing our authenticity, we can feel liberated. When you openly acknowledge your challenges and permit yourself to ask for help, a trusting and supportive environment will emerge. Learn to trust yourself and don’t let others’ negative comments affect you. You’ll start feeling free and confident.
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Life is a Journey, Not a Destination
When we shift our focus from “what should happen” to “what could happen,” life opens up doors of opportunity and joy. It’s more important to focus on why and how we’re moving forward, rather than where we’re headed. Life might be tough, but rather than seeing it as a challenge, try to find meaning in every color it presents.
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You Are Stronger Than Your Thoughts
The feeling of stagnation may be unpleasant, but instead of trying to force it away, keep going with your efforts. Your efforts may seem small at times, but as long as you continue to move forward, that fragile feeling of stagnation will not overpower you. Remind yourself that, while your efforts may seem small, they are enough for now.
Rather than dwelling on temporary inertia, have faith in yourself. Take a deep breath, and begin dissecting the problems that are holding you back. The solutions will naturally reveal themselves.
